When we overhear a private conversation, we rarely ever fully understand what is being said. It can be difficult, because if we get the wrong idea, it could lead us to feeling depressed when there is not a need to do so.
There are also times when we may overhear a conversation and it is exactly what we think. That is what happened to the woman in the following story when she heard her husband talking to his family.
It can be difficult when you feel like an outsider in your own family. I think that this woman learned a lesson that she won’t soon forget.
My husband goes on annual vacations with his family. I’m on okay terms with them but since we’ve only been married for a short time and I don’t see his family much, we still have that barrier that keeps is from being completely comfortable around each other. His family arranged for the vacation last week. I out of curiosity asked if I could come. My husband felt hasitant but I told him it’d be a great opportunities to get to know his family better. He agreed to take me and his family were surprised to see me but still welcomed me. On the 3rd day of the vacation. His dad, mom, brothers and spouses were all sitting at a table outside talking while I was preparing a fruit salad. As I was making my way back I overheard my MIL say “…did she really had nowhere else to spend the weekend?”. At first I had no idea who she was talking about so I kept on walking, but stopped once I overheard my husband say “l KNOW!!!! And I didn’t want to bring her with me but what was I supposed to do?!!! You know how pushy she can get”. I instantly figured it was about me. I felt so shaken up to the point where I almost dropped the salad. This whole time I was there I cleaned, cooked, looked after the kids and this is how they think of me? An inconvenience to them?.
I quietly booked a ticket and went home on the first plane. He called and texted but I didn’t respond anything other than let him know I was home. He got back and went off on me saying what I did was disrespectful and juvenile. I told him I overheard the conversation he had with his mom but he said that I was wrong for eavesdropping and that his family will warm up to me on their terms so I should stop pushing to be around that when they don’t feel comfortable with it. Basically saying it was my fault for coming along in the first place. He said that going home like made him and his family disappointed and gave them a really bad impression about me.
I think that I might have messed this up and somehow ruined it for them as well.
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